This ones for my best friend. Thank you for loving me like a sister.
Growing up was hard for me, mostly because I worse glasses, had goofy teeth, pale skin and was small and skinny – I was basically a target for bullies in all honesty. I’ve never let anything like that stop me from being who I am. I was the kid who would bring their keyboard into school and play it whilst the teacher took the register (yeah I know, I didn’t exactly help myself) and I’d bring in joke books and tell people that if you ate pages out of the book, you’d become more funny.
These things made me stick out like a sore thumb on the weirdness scale and despite it sounding so cliche, I’ve never really felt like I fitted in. I moved around schools a lot and have just generally always found making friends really awkward and uncomfortable. I’m the type of person who doesn’t really like being too forward, I fear that things I say as a joke could offend people, or maybe I’m annoying and talk too much. These are the things that run through my mind when talking to people for the first time, I’m aware that it’s the irrational side of my brain talking, however, it definitely holds me back when trying to make friends.
Sob story aside, I’ve been wanting to write this blog post for a long time, for anyone else who’s felt like this. Finding friendship in your 20’s is better than anything I ever could have wished for. So here’s some soul sister lovin’!
HEY SISTA, SOUL SISTA
Friends are the family that we actually get to pick. Over the past couple of years I’ve made some absolutely incredible friends, they’re people who share my views and opinions on the world as well as general hobbies and interests. I mean, shock horror, pretty much all of my friends are bloggers. What can I say they share the struggles of Instagram – What more could you want in a friend?
Finding friendship in your later teens and 20’s can definitely be nerve wrecking, well for me anyways. However childhood friendships and friendships throughout school just do not compare to the friends that I’ve made in my 20’s. It as though all the bullshit is cut away. There’s no bitching or arguing, there’s only honesty and complaining about small life inconveniences.
It honestly feels as though I’ve known my best friend Erin for a lifetime, however, it’s only been just over 2 years. As soppy as it sounds, Erin is like a sister to me and it’s as though all the crappy friendships I dealt with growing up have been completely worth it. Ew, I hate that you’ve made me soft.
5 THINGS YOU LEARN ABOUT FRIENDSHIP IN YOUR
20’S
– It’s quality over quantity
Back in school, it was all about who was popular. Surprise, surprise, it was never me. In secondary school, there was always such an urge to be in the ‘it crowd’ to be a complete robot controlled by a girl who seemed to be the ring leader, it sounds like a pathetic teen drama, however, I went to an all girls school and that was genuinely what it was like. None of these girls really cared for one another, they just wanted to be considered popular and untouchable. Nowadays, I’m happy that I can count my best friends on one hand, I know I can trust them with my life and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
– Sitting in bed is the new night out
Erin and I like to consider ourself as the original OAP’s. We’re basically 67 and we sit in bed with cups of tea and complain about the stupidest things. However, if we don’t vent this pointless information, we might explode. We would much rather sit in watching The Kardashians with a tea in one hand and some guacamole in the other. We’d chose it over a night out any day.
– It’s okay to get rid of toxic friendships
Throughout my late teens, a lot of friendships seemed to drift apart, which although It upset me at the time, it’s become more apparent that I don’t need them in my life and they’ve never really had my best interests at heart. With friendship, you put your own problems aside to help your friend with theres but in some of my friendships, it’s always been a ‘my cats blacker than yours’ situation. You don’t need that. Get rid and make space for people who are actually going to be there for you. BYE FELICA
– Brunch
I remember the days when I didn’t even know that brunch existed. I’d never actually be awake to see breakfast or lunch time in all honesty. However at the ripe old age of 22, it seems as though Brunch is the only thing me and my friends do. It’s a case of meeting up for coffee and breakfast and discussing the memes that we’ve been smirking subtly at for the past week or so. So mature, I know.
– Adult friendships are unbreakable
Let’s just say me and Erin have matching tattoos, therefore that bitch is stuck with me.
I hope you enjoyed this post, it’s something a little different, however, if you were ab absolute nerd as a child, I just wanted to let you know that you’re weird equal is out there somewhere, trust me.
Love,
Ahh this is the cutest post, I loved reading it. Totally agree with you too, I've met so many amazing friends over the last few years especially through blogging! jen, velvet spring x
I relate to this post so hard. I have definitely found my equal now, so much so, we get mistaken for being sisters all the time! It's weird because we did go to the same school and we were kind-of friends, but it was only when we left that we started to get REALLY close, it's funny that. I'm glad you have found your SO, friendship is so underrated in this society! Marbl☾☽Moon
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This is so lovely. I still have a lot of good friends – who I deem to be my best friends – from school but I've also made a lot of friendships in my twenties that mean the world to me. I think when you're older, friendships are based a lot more on what you actually have in common and it's wonderful to see how they can blossom so quickly into being one of the best things.